the love lock series: the cozy as a cup of tea chapter
Originally published May 9, 2023
There’s nothing quite as soothing as a warm cup of tea (green tea in the afternoon is my favorite!), and spending time with the person you love should feel just as relaxing, uplifting, and peaceful.
My friend Josh Claunch shared an answer that definitely resonated with an introvert like me. “Pursuing a relationship is a little bit harder for me because I’m kinda introverted, so it’s scary to take that first big step. But, I’ve found that if it’s a person that I really like, I’ll wish that she was there so that I can enjoy her presence. Once I’ve started feeling this way, it’s hard for me to stop thinking about it until I say something/ask her out, so it’s kinda only a matter of time until I try to pursue a relationship from there. For me to fall in love with someone, they have to be someone that could be my best friend. My love language is quality time, so if I find myself wanting to hang out even if we’re just like doing homework next to each other and I feel rejuvenated by that kind of interaction, that’s when I start to fall in love. Also since I’m a little introverted, it takes until I’m comfortable just being around someone no matter what we’re doing to open up, so that’s really when I start to fall in love.”
Another sweet friend of mine, Haley Sealander, expressed the importance of delivering such warmth and peace. “There are a lot of factors that make me find a guy attractive or make me consider a relationship, but the most important thing I have found is that they are caring and attentive. I get married this month, and the reason I decided to date and also marry my future husband was because he is always so quick to take care of me. For example, if I’m thirsty, he gets me a glass of water, or if I’m carrying something heavy, he offers to carry it for me. All those acts are really small, but it goes really far in making me feel loved.”
I think it truly comes down to the little things in life. Like my daily cup of green tea, it’s the daily check ins from someone, the mundane time spent together, the seemingly small acts of service that communicate care, that show you love, love as cozy as a cup of tea.
